Struggling with self-worth, purpose, and reasoning to your existence in your early twenties is inevitable.
For a portion of life, we are formed mentally and physically by our surroundings. We have morals ingrained in us our parents have taught us, and regardless of what they might be, these morals are part of who we become. Unique is a kind word and it is exactly what it sounds like.
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Although I was taught so much as a child, I still became everything my parents told me not to be.
So some of us went away to college, or just moved away. Many have had children, and families and that itself establishes a sense of purpose, drive, belonging, and self-worth. But what about those who don’t have a sense of belonging? Well, it destroys you. As humans, we are created to interact. And as women, we have a nurturing pride built into us. As you are reaching so deeply outside of yourself for greater meaning: realize that you already have it!
This morning when you reached for your daily medication, or took your dog outside: these small things give your life meaning. Going to work, or the doctor, is not meaning but rather means to a purposeful life. These things fall hand in hand with self-care. All in time you will start to establish drive for your unique characteristics; and this is when you discover the person you are when no-one is around to watch. Own your daily routine and make it yours, after all no one is you!
My small testament to this is loosing everything worth financial value and being forced to look in the mirror at myself. Do you like what you see when you meet with your own eyes? If not, I can assure you the money, the car you’ve been watching, or that new lace halter from Victoria’s Secret is not going to fix this infested desire internally, for happiness. Rather the cup of coffee sitting on the table, standing in the pouring rain, or the sun hitting your desk as you’re blogging, maybe your dog falling asleep right beside you. These small things are happiness, purpose, and simply divine.
BUILD YOUR FOUNDATION BEFORE YOUR FINANCES.
What does this mean? Simple: if you are a cardiologist pulling $450k a year, that is amazing! If you have zero gratitude for the free gifts given from birth, you have no sense of grounding and that does not make for a fulfilling, purposeful life.